An unofficial guide to the twelve steps written by a. Big book awakening 4th step workshop resentment examples and worksheets 122006 columns 1 4 to download the most current versions of these worksheets go to. Its best to work with your sponsor as you write your 4th step. General disclaimer is designed for educational purposes only and is not engaged in providing medical or health advice.
If you didnt know it, alanons book paths to recovery is an excellent resource for at least 7 other ways to do a 4th step. Working step four in narcotics anonymous we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step. Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action, the first step of which is a personal housecleaning, which many of us had never attempted. Please print 2 sides on one sheet of paper sheet 1 side. Though our decisionstep 3 was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once fast followed by a. The following is a suggested format for a big book step study meeting with emphasis on the fourth step. Permission to use this big book of alcoholics anonymous is described in the a. Step four 43 we want to fi nd exactly how, when, and where our natural desires have warped us.
Weve looked at the aa big book version in another post. Exactly how thone should approach the 4 step inventory has been a problem for many years. To help us discover and establish a conscious relationship with a power greater than ourselves. We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. Column 4 though a situation had not been entirely our fault, we tried to.
There are three separate inventories suggested by the big book, and each 4th step inventory worksheet has an additional page you can print for more space. People we have harmed big book, page 70, paragraph 3 we have listed the people we have hurt by our conduct, and are willing to straighten out the past if we can. Is it just the examples in book, self esteem, personal, fear, etc. Step 4 of alcoholics anonymous involves creating a list of your shortcomings. This guide is intended to be used as an aid to writing a fourth step inventory.
Aa the original way 12 step guide aa the original way group. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. And you have to do the columns one at a time the way it supposed to be done. The information provided through is not to be used for diagnosing or treating any health problem or disease. If we have been thorough about our personal inventory, we have written. An easy 4th step form that really works in less than ten minutes.
Step four inventory lists happy, joyous, and free big book. Remember that in the context of the big book, selfish doesnt just mean wanting things my way. A graphic guide to aas fourth step though our decision1 was a vital and crucial step. Fourth step inventory these fourth step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Now lets ponder the need for a list of the more glaring. Thus the big book written columns are resentment, fear, selfish sex, and people harmed. Read chapter 5, how it works in the big book, and read step 4 in the twelve steps and twelve. An unofficial guide to the twelve steps, edited by dr. Column 5 we got this all down on paper and looked at it. The big book helped guide me through this process, and though i repeatedly read and studied the book, this wasnt entirely an intellectual exercise. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. Aa the original way group at calvary baptist church, 531 haywood rd, asheville, nc 28806. We have laid out the 4 th step inventory here so that it follows the big book. Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous jason.
It can be given to a newcomer so they can fill it out on their own. All page numbers in this fourth step inventory workshop. I thought it had to be done precisely as laid out in the big book, and although bill w. By writing first, then doing the 5 th step we can look at resentment, fear and harm individually, the way it says in the big book. Jul 06, 2005 fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step inventory workshop what is the purpose of the 12 steps. The items within each column are mucked up in the big book by the insertion of the emotions matter and bills mrs. The purpose of this promises inventory is much like the growth questionnaire that is to help determine how much change andor growth you have experienced since coming into the program. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions. Happy joyous and free big book meeting of alcoholics anonymous. May 09, 2015 an easy 4th step form that really works in less than ten minutes. These are the original 4th step guides and work sheetsused in the dallas b. The language and format is taken largely from the big book of alcoholics anonymous.
Introduction to the 4th step inventory workshop what is the purpose of the 12 steps. By discovering what our emotional deformities are, we can move toward their correction. There were a few steps i needed to take before i was ready to make a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself. Step 4 fear inventory form the big book authors indicate that the best way to deal with our fears is to do. In the resentment inventory, dont write across, do it in columns, i. A graphic guide to aas fourth step though our decision1 was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face and be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. To illustrate, here are the same three resentments with the fourth column added to include the self, manifested in various ways. Step 4 fear inventory form the big book authors indicate that the best way to deal with our fears is to do exactly what we did with resentments.
Read the bottom of page 6371 of the big book to help understand this step and the purpose of writing your inventories. I am not trying to shortcut and if anything want to air on being more thorough so this remains lasting in terms of getting it all out being fearless. Aa speakers joe and charlie working the 4th step the. If you still have problems, then read pages 551552 of the big book. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. We wish to look squarely at the unhappiness this has caused others and ourselves. Step 4fears fill in second and third columns make multiple copies or. If you are using the forms that i provided to you, or if youre not using the forms, remember. The big book study and action group and its website is not affiliated with alcoholics. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing. The fearlessness and honesty with which we fill in these last three columns will make all the difference in the world. There are three separate inventories suggested by the big book, and each 4th step inventory worksheet has an additional page you can print. Big book awakening 4th step workshop resentment examples and worksheets 122006 columns 14 to download the most current versions of these worksheets go to.
Bbss speakers on step one in accordance with the twelve traditions of alcoholics anonymous we admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives had become unmanageable. To be able to start on this step, the previous three steps must of course have been completed, so before starting check with your sponsor, spiritual advisor, counselor, etc. Jan 29, 2017 aa speakers joe and charlie working the 4th step the big book comes alive aa speakers and more. Please keep in mind that the fourth step is not dealing with changing anything. Actually, this consists of six sub columns, and it seems to work best to go down each subcolumn before you go onto the next subcolumn. Resentment inventory is most easily done in columns, as illustrated on page 65 of the big book. The big book states this at the outset of the description of the step four, on page 64. The online 4th step guide includes an exhaustive set of directions explaining how the guide works and a reminder that an inventory is simply a list. Using the process outlined in the big book is an essential guideline to. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the. We admitted our wrongs column 4 honestly and were willing to set these matters straight column 5.
We are asked to look carefully at ourselves and to get beneath the selfdeceptions we have used up to now to hide the truth from. Cover sheet big book awakening 4th step big book awakening san. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. These 4th step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Its best to work with a sponsor who has done the 4th step as you fill out the columns. Using the big book method to write your fourth step. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step inventory. These first three columns, our grudge list, are filled out as part of step 4, just like the big book. See inventory template on next page for a guide while. Then i thought to myself i wonder if anybodys created a 4th step app. Our chief responsibility to the newcomer is an adequate presentation of the program. The worksheets were created by using the precise instructions in the big book to make taking the fourth step as easy and simple as possible. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free if you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them. Column 5 character defects and the foul four good life.
Nov 20, 2019 there is a 4th step guide available online for all 12 step members. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but. It is exactly the way we are taught in the big book. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step inventory workshop what is the purpose of the 12 steps.
Jul 09, 2012 without that sunlight we live in the dark. If you get these 4th step worksheets anywhere else they are likely not the originals and may have been changed or altered. To be able to start on this step, the previous three steps must of course have been. What is the nature of my wrongs, faults, mistakes, defects. After i took the 4th step inventory and honestly faced columns 4 and 5, i started to experience the freedom and peace of the truth and felt the light of his love pour into those dark, hidden places of woundedness that i had been protecting. There is a 4th step guide available online for all 12step members. When i first approached this step, i was concerned with doing it exactly right. Different guides have been developed by well meaning folks in several 12 step programs. Regardless of the method, our fourth step will be successful if we are searching and fearless.
Experience proves that a 4columninventory format is the best. How have i done the things ive resented in column 2 to the person ive listed in. This is a common error, but explicitly mentioned in the big book and forms the basis for the 8th step list. Below we have a few worksheets available for you to download and print. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a stren uous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in our selves which had been blocking us. Youre looking at these issues in the context of your relationship with the individuals, and not in relation to each of the things a particular individual has done. The following are some one hundred and twenty five promises from the first 164 pages of the big book, alcoholics anonymous, reprinted with permission. Searching and fearless step four calls on us to be searching and fearless. Column 4 the inventory was ours, not the other persons. Downloadable group workbook companion to the 12 steps of alcoholics anonymous aa, for adults who desire information on alcoholism and addiction recovery. It is extremely important that we work with an na sponsor. It is not meant to be a substitute for professional care.
Resentments the first 3 columns sheet 1 side 2 resentments the fourth. Being convinced that self, manifested in various ways, was what had defeated us, we considered its common manifestations. Everything contained in the fourth step inventory worksheets is directly from the book alcoholics anonymous. Aa speakers joe and charlie working the 4th step the big book comes alive aa speakers and more. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. I was taking someone through their 4th step inventory and.
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